Learning through trials
This past month has been one of the most exciting and challenging in a long time (maybe the most ever). As we have gone through the ups and we have found a lot of very real encouragement and even learned many valuable lessons. We have relied on past friendships and even made some new friends along the way. Challenging, as it has been, it has also been rewarding and somehow the difficulties only seem to heighten the expectation of what God is doing in our lives.
I will just tell you about one particular instance this past month. I share this because it really demonstrates the heart of our mission and also it is something that really spoke deeply to my soul.
One of the difficulties we have faced here is having running water at our home. Let me describe to you our dilemma. Upon arriving at our house in Chongwe we realized that just because we have “running water in our home”, this doesn’t mean that we should expect what those words seem to represent. Actually at our home the water only runs between 6 a.m. and 9 a.m. and when it runs it is coming straight from the Chongwe River. It actually comes out of the faucet a light brown color with bits of debris, sand, and small bugs.
You can imagine us arriving to our home that afternoon. We were hot from moving, and the water has been off since the morning. The bottled water we had wasn’t much and it was also hot. To top it off, someone had left a broken pipe on and the entire back of our house was standing in about three inches of water. The beds that we had built didn’t fit in the doors, and we had no stove, fridge, or food. At that moment we were really hit with reality. We tried to comfort ourselves with the notion that this experience was helping us to understand the plight of much of the world who live in these conditions constantly; but, to be honest it didn’t help much. After the bush and the heat and all the “problems”, we were teetering on the edge of sanity.
We regained our composure and after a few days we felt like we had footing and were making progress. I am happy to report that a couple days ago (about 15 days after moving in), we completed the raising of a water tower so that now we have water available throughout the day. Along with this we put on a filter so that at least the water is mostly free of debris and almost clear. Of course, we can’t drink it, but if we boil it we can at least us it for cooking and such.
Now here is the issue to which God really spoke to me. As you can imagine there have been stressful moments. In the midst of it all I will admit that I wondered why it all was happening to us, why things were not just working out. Why we had it so bad. Then one day I was in Lusaka, trying to take care of another problem. I met up with Davis Daka (our National Director for Gospelink). He, of course, was concerned and sorry for the stress we had been having. Later on I found out from a different pastor that actually Davis had been having his own water problems. His situation was similar to mine, but opposite. Instead of having no water, he had too much water. In fact, his house was flooded from all the rains. To top it off he lives in a compound where the open sewage and stench is bad even in the dry season, much less when those waters have risen into the streets and into their home. On top of it he can’t afford to move or rent anywhere else. I was broken. To tell you the truth we have it so easy. Even us, here with all of our “problems”, we still have everything we need. If it gets too bad we can make a way out. We can pay for something else, we can put up a water tower, we can go out to eat, and we can go stay for a night in a hotel; but, David cannot and most the world cannot.
It is like one conversation I overheard. One man was showing another how to take one of our discarded cans and make it into a lamp. I thought that it was great, what an ingenious idea. Yet, I come to find out that the reason was not for creativity, but because the cost of candles is too high. What kind of world do we live in where people can’t afford the cost of a simple candle? To me, the sobering truth is that even though we are living far below the American standard, compared to the world standard we are still far above the majority.
So today I am just going to try and take these difficulties as they come, and as the Word says, “count them all joy.” In some strange way I have seen that most difficulties will only help to make the blessings shine that much brighter. After all, we would never experience the greatness of pleasure if not for the reality of pain.
p.s. At the end of this month I will post a complete update of all our happenings so far, with pictures and all. Please stay tuned!
Donation Drive: An opportunity to give

This is very exciting! The entire month of January, Grace Fellowship is partnering with us to collect items for Zambia 2010. We are excited not only to see the community come together and show some love and support, but also because we can foresee the end result. It will be amazing to see needs being fulfilled! Please join us in this “Zambia 2010 Donation Drive” by helping us with any of the items listed below. These items can be dropped off at the Grace Fellowship Church (8350 Okeechobee Blvd. WPB, FL 33411) main lobby during business hours. For large items please contact Stephen at 561.762.6265. Thank you so much!
School supplies: Pens, pencils, notebooks, paper, teacher supplies, books or curriculum, classroom props such as maps and educational posters, chalk, erasers, etc.
Art and Craft Supplies: Crayons, construction paper, scissors, yarn, all crochet and knitting materials, Sewing materials, sewing machines, fabric, etc.
Sports Equipment: Uniforms, soccer balls, cleats, etc.
Clothes (Including children and baby) New or slightly used only please: Shoes, socks, men’s dress pants, women’s long skirts, winter clothes (it does get cold!), gloves, hats, t-shirts, ties, etc.
General Items: Diapers and Formula, toothbrushes, toothpaste, hair ties, bar soap, non- prescription medicine such as Aspirin, Tylenol (not expired please!) rash and antibiotic creams, band aids, general toiletries, reading glasses, etc.
Household items: Blankets, sheets, pillows and pillowcases, towels sleeping bags, etc.
Kitchen: Cooking utensils, cutting boards, etc.
Tools: For GIVE LIFE building projects, work gloves and work boots
Gardening tools: For light farming projects
Evangelistic supplies: Bibles, tracts, study resources for pastors
Other Items: Generator (portable or for the home), Portable speaker system, Vehicle (Each tax-free container is entitled to one vehicle. Used 4×4 in strong mechanical condition due to the terrain in Zambia), Motorbikes and bicycles, electrical converters.
Thank you so much!
Catching Up…
Time to play catch up! We are back in town now from what seemed like a really long trip. In all I guess we were pretty much gone for over a month. We started with a trip to Virginia for the annual Gospelink conference. Along the way we stopped over in South Carolina to speak. After a beautiful and relaxing time of great fellowship we headed back to Florida. We made a quick stop in Jacksonville and visited the zoo, which Emma loved, then arrived on a Saturday night in West Palm. A day later and we were on a plane to Venezuela to meet some of Aby’s family for the first time. What a trip that was, and those of you who know how I feel about Spanish food will definitely understand why I say that. We spent ten days there and it was just too quick. Aby has a beautiful family, and they live in a beautiful country (which is sadly being destroyed by a horrendous dictator who thinks he is a savior, but that is another post altogether). One other highlight for you, I warn you this is unbelievable. I am still trying to decide if I believe what I saw; anyway, the price of fuel there is less than $.10 a gallon. I have never been so excited to pump gas, and let me mention that their regular unleaded starts out at 95 octane. Incredible! So we get back from Venezuela, spend a week or two in West Palm and then we are back on a plane headed for Atlanta. The occasion? Thanksgiving and the welcoming of our first nephew Ethan Andrew. The weather was chilly and wonderful. Translation… both kids came home with colds. Seriously, it was a beautiful trip and a great time of catching up with family.
So, here we are back in West Palm and headed straight into Christmas. You know what I mean when I say that the year is pretty much over. It happens every time, the minute you hit Thanksgiving it just seems like you blink and it is New Years Eve. This year is no exception and in fact, I say that it may actually be happening quicker than usual. I know that it is to be expected, we are now just two months from being on a plane and headed for Zambia. You could say that it finally happened, the reality of the whole thing hit me last week. I can’t say that it felt good, though I am welcoming that gut-wrenching feeling in the hopes that just maybe it will bringing us into focus.
These next few months are busy for us and we could really use a lot of support. In short we have to finish raising our monthly funds, finish purchasing our tickets, sell the bulk of our possessions, get all our family medical items in line, decide what all we need to bring with us, get our work permits confirmed, get whatever things we have left up to Georgia, and then prepare our hearts for the big day (among countless other things). Let me say this, I do usually work best under the pressure of a deadline; however, somehow this deadline just feels a little bit bigger than I expected.
Anyway, that is us right now. I promise that I am back and will be more regular on my writing. That and next time I will focus on more interesting ministry discussion and updates. I just wanted to give you an snapshot of where we have been and what we have been up to. For picture of all this, make sure you check out Aby’s posts. You know that she is the professional memory keeper in our family.
Thanks for your prayers and support. Keep in touch…
Visiting Oswala Trust School – Lusaka, Zambia
It was a school very similar, in many ways, to most of the schools that I have visited in Zambia. Only this one seemed more congested than normal because of the small property size. It was nestled on a busy street in one of the slum compounds of Lusaka.
When our van pulled in we were greeted by the smiling faces of school children, and also the curious eyebrows of the local block makers who seemed to be utilizing the courtyard area as a production yard. It turns out that this is exactly what was happening. The school was forced to lease out some space in order to cover some cost. Though, I have to admit that the extra funds did not seem to make much of a difference to the state of the facilities.
I walked up to one building, noticing first the chipped paint. The windows were filled with broken glass, which seemed worse than even the other windows which had no glass at all. Despite this distraction, my thoughts were quickly taken from the absence of windows panes, to the presence of small dark faces smiling with expectant glee. Looking in on them from the empty panes, I could see a classroom full of students.
I continued to walk down the corridor of this building past three or so more classes, until I found the office of the headmaster. I ask to come in and meet with him. After explaining ourselves and our objectives, I asked him a question that almost always has more of an answer than I am prepared to deal with. The question is, “in what ways can we help your school, what do you need?” Of course, there is always the need for the basic things: pens, paper, chalk, and school books. That is not all he offered though; the headmaster, a local church planter, began to share his vision for a community library. I thought to myself how great it would be to see that vision become a reality. After signing the school logbook, we were shown to the classes. We were given full access to visit every class and speak for up to forty-five minutes. One thing I have always enjoyed is the sound of the classrooms. While speaking with a group of fifth graders, I can hear the singing and laughing coming from the other rooms. There is a guitar strumming, and I can hear the students reveling in the excitemen.
After finishing my discussion, I went to check in on some of the other groups. It is always so exciting to see the interaction between the team and the students. I have yet to take anyone to Africa who has not been touched by the attitude of the students. Not only are they some of the most respectful and attentive kids, but there is a true innocence that they have. I passed by all the classrooms to make my way down to the last building where I knew that Aby had gone to speak to the little kids. It was there that I came face-to-face with something that I will never forget.
As I walked into this poorly-lit room I noticed that it was put together as a labyrinth, so to speak, of small rooms. It seemed that simple plywood had been used the convert one small room into three separate, tiny rooms. I peered into the first room and saw no less than twenty kids crowded into a ten-by-ten space. It seemed that in order to get to the front of this little room, you would have to literally wade through all these kids and their makeshift desks. What a sight it was, what a joy it was to see their faces; but, through the excitement I could feel the heaviness of being broken because of their plight. Their situation was one that we would never see, not even in the poorest of American communities, and yet I have seen a similar scenario time and time again in Africa.
After finishing our program and piling into our van, we left as a throng of kids stood waving and running along side us. As we drove along I thought to myself, what can we do to make a difference in the lives of these students? What will it take? How can I take them from just a school name written in my journal and a memory written on my heart, to an actual opportunity. The truth is, it will take great sacrifice. One that is far beyond my current style of living.
We are so thrilled to be moving to Africa and beginning to put our hands and hearts into communities and schools just like this one. There are so many similar stories. There are countless needs, truly more than we could hope to actually meet; yet, somehow we know we are supposed to try. We are supposed to love in deed and truth and that will require, above everything else, a true vulnerability and a deep commitment to sharing in the fellowship of suffering. What encourages us is that we recognize the role that this Give Life community has in making this work a reality. We can already feel the impact that cooperation brings to our efforts, we can see the benefit of being like-minded. One Bible passage that speaks towards this is Philippians 2: 2-5, which reads:
“Make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do no merely look out for your own personal interests, but al so for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus…”
Of course, we could read the next few verses and only add to our understanding of humility, but the truth is already there. We are called into a community that serves. Not a community in a idealistic sense, but a literal community unlike the typical ones we find in our world. A community where the desire to be like-minded is made possible through actual humility and brokenness. A community where serving the needs of others is the result of surrendering the desires of self. What a beautiful community this is! The only question that I ask myself, truly I do, is whether I am actually doing my part. I will be the first to tell you that I wonder if I even know the first thing about this type of lifestyle. I may not, but I want to. I want to more than anything else, and at whatever cost. I do not say these words as a show, or anything else; I only want to inspire others to join me in this. I have often said that passion is caught, not taught. So I share with you this vision so that your can be kindled, and that in-turn you will set my heart ablaze again and again.
A Pretty Good Question…
Recently I started reading a book called Compassionate Leadership. I came across a really interesting question in the introduction. To preface the question the book makes an observation. That observation is that some beloved Bible characters have names or title associated with them. In some cases they are equally known by their title or for their titles as they are for there given names. Think about some of these examples. The books authors mention Barnabas, which means “son of encouragement,” whose actual name was Joseph. Joseph (aka Barnabas) was a Levite, who incidentally was one of the two men considered in the running for the apostleship position to replace Judas. His name was changed to Barnabas to represent his character.
I began thinking about this and came up with a few other examples. For instance, you have James and John who were called the “sons of thunder.” Then there is James (the brother of Jesus), known as “camel knees” because of his constant, fervent prayer. Thinking back to the Old Testament I remember King David who was known as “the man after God’s own heart”, and also Jacob, whose name was changed to Israel. Unfortunately this naming also works towards the negative, as in the case of Jonah, who is sometimes called “the reluctant prophet.”
So this observation builds the framework for the following question; “If someone changed your name to correspond to your lifestyle, what would they call you?” Wow! I am baffled by this question for two reasons. The first is the obvious; that is, what would that name to be? Now the second reason, which is the underlying weight of the issue, is what would be the one quality or passion that I would want my entire life to count for?
What if my time here on earth was soon spent and I were known for what my life amounts to at this point. Again, the question is not what would I want that name to be, instead it is what would that name be. That is a really sobering thought. It reminds me that it is not what we want to become that defines who we are, instead it is who we are that will define what we become.
I am going to be thinking about this question of what it is that I would want to be remembered as. It is a question which will require some time. How about for you, what would your title be today? Beyond that, what would you want it to be? What is the one thing that you would want to be remembered as? I would love to hear your responses to this, and I will be thinking about it myself.
Family Pics

Emma loves to run

She really, really loves to run

I don't know who is more in love... Mommy or Josiah

One of my favorite pictures

Emma loves Josiah

Josiah likes to pull Emma's hair... and sometimes bite her
In Process
So you are probably wondering what has been going on. Where have you guys been since your last post three months ago. The main thing is that a part of me doesn’t want to bore you with the mundane details of our “transitional” life. I know that when we are on field there are going to be so many exciting things to share. Then again, what is a blog if not a personal account of day-to-day life. If you are still reading this, then you must have an interest in what is going on with us as we get ready for the big move.
So, here is the news. For starters, I am finding that God has a lot of work to do in my heart and mind as He prepares me for this ministry in Africa. These days I have been doing a lot of self-reflection and assessment. This has been an eye-opening process.
I am seeing more clearly that as God uses us to accomplish His work, that the “work” is also the very method that He uses to change us into His likeness. For instance, in order to really move our lives overseas requires that we sell most of our possessions. This is a means to an end; but, it is also more than that. It becomes a tool that God uses to break us of our attachment to the “things” of this world. It is causing us to reevaluate our mindset towards the comforts and possessions that we have become accustomed to. Do all these things add to our lives, or have they secretly been working against us to a degree. This is the kind of reflection that has been running through my mind lately.
Moving to a different topic. As you can imagine, a lot of what I have been facing right now is the financial details that have to fall into place. This seems like the “daily” objective in preparing. It is also the area that nobody really enjoys. I am learning through this that God is able to bring about better results than what we even plan for. We are presently at 50% of our monthly needs, and we are standing on faith that God is going to put all the right partnerships in place.
Speaking of partnerships, I have been so encouraged by the people that God has brought into our mission. They have been so supportive and interested in the vision that God has given us. I have seen how that to really accomplish great things for God, it is going to involve the combined efforts of many others. I am watching as the vision that was birthed in our hearts, is catching fire in the team that God is putting together around us.
I ask you to please keep us in your prayers and check in on us from time to time. I am anxious to be in Zambia, but I know that we have many details that need to be worked out. It is sometimes said that the process is more important that the result; if this is true, then I am grateful for this process.
REAL-LIFE IS LIFE-CHANGING
It was 1999 and all I can remember from that trip to Indonesia is the face of a beautiful little girl. She couldn’t have been older than four, and my heart physically hurt as she stared at me. She was sitting on the sidewalk, wearing nothing but a t-shirt that was old, filthy, torn and much too large. I remember the 10 seconds that it took me to walk to where she was and in my mind I wondered. Where are her parents? Where is her home? Where does she lay her little head down to sleep? What has she eaten today? Has she eaten at all? When was the last time somebody gave her a hug or a drink of water or even took the time to acknowledge her? I cannot tell you the emptiness I saw in her eyes. It was indescribable. She was so sad. I can’t explain to you the feeling in my heart. It is strange how one glimpse of somebody’s reality overturned mine. We often forget how many of these same cases there are in the world. This little girl opened my eyes to something that we often overlook. She showed me a world that exists so far from where we are, as if on another planet. (more…)
GIVE LIFE
I am happy to say that I am married with two children. We always said we wanted to have eight kids (believe it or not); we are still holding on to that dream, but it is a little bit slippery now that we had two last year. Don’t think I am complaining they bring more joy to my life than I could have imagined. I love watching their personalities develop, I love holding them (and I don’t even mind if they drool) which has added insight for me into the way that our Heavenly Father loves us. Just to go off on a tangent, I preached yesterday on Jonah. What really embraced me was the very end of the book when Jonah is sulking over the Ninevites “getting off the hook.” God, of course, challenges him and reminds him that He alone is the one who has a great, vested interest in the people of all nations. What I am saying is that God loves us as a Father, even when we drool or spit up or mess our pants. I am not trying to say that we should stay as little helpless infants, just that it is amazing the deep love that God reveals towards his children. My children’s names are Emma Joelle (1 ½ years) and Josiah Paul (6 months). (more…)
Embraced by the call to be ‘recklessly abandoned’ for the cause of Christ,” this is Stephen’s heart. With this passion, and his wife’s heart intertwined, Stephen birthed the Give Life project. As the founding director and visionary of Give Life he is responsible for the development and implementation of present and future projects.
Aby is the co-director and fellow-visionary for the mission of Give Life. She is the creative director and it is largely her broken heart for the hurting that best sums up the passion of this project.
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